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Saying Goodbye to Singledom

27th February 2015

10668979_10154929976965381_7803792244068645586_oIn fifteen days, I am going to be someone’s wife. Which, for me, is a title I didn’t think I would have for at least another decade.

Up until two years ago, when Joe just happened to fall into my life, I had always been the requisite single girl in my group of friends.

It’s not that I didn’t want to date…it was just that I was having so much fun building my career and friendships that it never was a priority.

My entire life, I’ve found so much joy and fulfillment in the female relationships I’ve made that the thought of adding a boy into the mix seemed like it could only screw things up. (Which in the instances of some of my friends’ relationships, did in fact occur.)

Through thick and thin, my girlfriends have always been there for me even when my family couldn’t be. They have counseled me on some of my biggest life decisions and given me the courage to get to where I am today.

These friendships are why it is so hard for me to say goodbye to my singledom.

Not because I am afraid of the commitment of marriage or that I’m afraid I’ve made the wrong choice (Joe is one thing I could not be more sure of), but because of how it is going to forever alter these relationships I’ve cherished for so many years.

I’m not naive. The reason everyone says “marriage changes you” is because how could it not?

I am no longer going to be an individual making decisions solely for myself but instead be someone’s partner and teammate as we collectively make decisions together.

While I wrestle with these changes that are about to occur in my life, there is one thing I know for certain.

No matter how the nature of my friendships change once I say “I do,” I will always try my hardest to be the same friend I was when I was single.

Sure, it may involve some more work on my part. But whether it be my friendships or my marriage, I am going to do everything I can to keep the relationships that matter most to me as vibrant and as meaningful as they’ve always been.

The great thing about a milestone like marriage is it truly makes you stop dead in your tracks and evaluate the decisions that got you to this point.

And I can honestly say that were it not for the love and faithfulness my girlfriends have provided over the years, I would not be able to walk down the aisle.

Because without them teaching me about the type of love I deserve, I never would have been able to recognize it when I found it.

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(This post is in honor of many lovely ladies but in particular my soulmate, Allie. You will always be my person!)