Category Archives: Love

Is Online Dating Bae?

16th February 2016

It’s that time of year when people either gloat about their significant other, own their singleness or lust for something more. That’s right … it’s Valentine’s Day.

For those of you who fall into the latter category, there is good news. If you aren’t among the 59 percent of Americans who consider online dating a good way to meet people, you may want to rethink your stance.

Online dating has become a haven for those looking to not just date but find a spouse.

In their sixth annual Singles In America survey, match.com found that 93 percent of online daters are more likely to want to marry.

While this statistic may shock some, when you look at how the dating landscape has changed in the last decade, it should come as no surprise.

From the advent of traditional online dating websites like match.com to the emergence of dating apps like Tinder, the rapid growth of these types of platforms demonstrates how much people are yearning to find the one.

But if you’ve heard this same spiel from your grandma every Thanksgiving since you and your ex broke up, and still aren’t convinced online dating is for you, there is more good news.

A 2013 study led by the National Academy of Sciences (PNA) found more than one third of U.S. marriages begin with online dating.

These marriages, in particular, were also less likely to end in divorce or separation, according to the study.

Unlike with most of the studies done on online dating, the PNA’s findings came from looking at individuals who organically found their significant other on social media along with those who found their partner through a more traditional online dating site.

This is an important distinction to make because one of the most surprising ways people are now connecting is through social media. And no, we aren’t talking about the dating social networks.

We’re talking about universally accepted sites like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

With how much time we spend on social media as a culture, it only makes sense that we would start connecting beyond the screen as well.

But how is it that these connections are happening? Let me give you an example.

Let’s say you and some stranger from Indiana follow the same person on Twitter. And this person decides that you and this stranger should virtually meet so he suggests you follow one another.

And then, five months later, you find yourself traveling to Indianapolis for the first time to meet your Twitter crush.

If this sounds outlandish, that’s because it is. But the best part is, the scenario above is how I met my husband.

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Now, countless tweets, texts, and cross country trips later, I am living a sweet newlywed life with my husband in the Midwest.

My story is not an isolated incident either. Take actor Jake T. Austin for instance. In January, he announced that he was dating one of his fans which he had met through social media.

So, all of you out there who don’t want to give online dating a chance: maybe you just need to rethink what online dating means to you.

You never know when your next mention on Twitter or comment on Instagram could be the person you have been looking for.

This post originally appeared on Fox News Latino.

Our Wedding

14th April 2015

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After months of fretting over centerpieces and reception decor, our wedding weekend came and went in a flash. And just like that, we have already been married for a month!

Thankfully, all of the nights spent worrying over how it would all play out translated into the most incredibly wonderful day we could have imagined.

Throughout our weekend of #CapobRays activities, from baseball games to the rehearsal dinner to the wedding itself, I was reminded just how much Joe and I are loved by those around us.

It truly took a village to pull off our special day and for that, we will be forever grateful to each and every person who helped us celebrate and plan our union of holy matrimony.

Our wonderful photographers, Chris Maddox and Briana Santiago, were able to capture our day so beautifully and I am so excited to finally share a glimpse at some of the images with you all!

(And yes, we chose to get married on the Pi Day of the Century. Because, like Pi, our love is infinite & irrational.)

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             (All photos taken at Ancala Country Club in Scottsdale, Arizona by Chris Maddox Photography)

Saying Goodbye to Singledom

27th February 2015

10668979_10154929976965381_7803792244068645586_oIn fifteen days, I am going to be someone’s wife. Which, for me, is a title I didn’t think I would have for at least another decade.

Up until two years ago, when Joe just happened to fall into my life, I had always been the requisite single girl in my group of friends.

It’s not that I didn’t want to date…it was just that I was having so much fun building my career and friendships that it never was a priority.

My entire life, I’ve found so much joy and fulfillment in the female relationships I’ve made that the thought of adding a boy into the mix seemed like it could only screw things up. (Which in the instances of some of my friends’ relationships, did in fact occur.)

Through thick and thin, my girlfriends have always been there for me even when my family couldn’t be. They have counseled me on some of my biggest life decisions and given me the courage to get to where I am today.

These friendships are why it is so hard for me to say goodbye to my singledom.

Not because I am afraid of the commitment of marriage or that I’m afraid I’ve made the wrong choice (Joe is one thing I could not be more sure of), but because of how it is going to forever alter these relationships I’ve cherished for so many years.

I’m not naive. The reason everyone says “marriage changes you” is because how could it not?

I am no longer going to be an individual making decisions solely for myself but instead be someone’s partner and teammate as we collectively make decisions together.

While I wrestle with these changes that are about to occur in my life, there is one thing I know for certain.

No matter how the nature of my friendships change once I say “I do,” I will always try my hardest to be the same friend I was when I was single.

Sure, it may involve some more work on my part. But whether it be my friendships or my marriage, I am going to do everything I can to keep the relationships that matter most to me as vibrant and as meaningful as they’ve always been.

The great thing about a milestone like marriage is it truly makes you stop dead in your tracks and evaluate the decisions that got you to this point.

And I can honestly say that were it not for the love and faithfulness my girlfriends have provided over the years, I would not be able to walk down the aisle.

Because without them teaching me about the type of love I deserve, I never would have been able to recognize it when I found it.

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(This post is in honor of many lovely ladies but in particular my soulmate, Allie. You will always be my person!)

Our Twitter Love Story

16th September 2014

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When you think of grand, romantic love stories, they usually begin with a connection two people have the moment they meet.

But for us, our love story simply began with a tweet.

It’s incredible to think that I found my fiancé on a social media site that only allows you to share instances of your life in 140 characters or less.

After slyly laughing to myself each time someone asks how Joe and I met, I thought it was finally time to put the tale all in writing and to in fact show that meeting your significant other on social media is not as weird as you’d think.

While I have always seen Twitter as a great networking tool, I never thought it would land me a date.

That was until I got a text from a friend that some guy from Indiana saw my tweets and thought I was cute. (Later I came to find out this “crush” Joe had was really our mutual friend’s attempt to set us up.)

Living and loving my life in New York City, at the time I thought nothing of this little comment but figured I might as well see if the guy was any cute.

So when I discovered that he was in fact a very attractive man I thought the least I could do was follow him.

That simple action led me to discover that Joe and I had a lot in common. We both loved politics, baseball, and terrible pop culture references.

For a few months we would tweet and direct message back and forth about a number of random topics we’d encounter in our daily life. I learned a plethora of random facts about Indiana and what an actuary is while Joe learned the ins and outs of working in a newsroom.

When we reached the 3 month mark of our Twitter courtship, I decided to take the plunge and give him my phone number. As I waited to see if he would try to reach out, my heart skipped a beat when he texted me minutes within receiving my number.

Of course I never thought our innocent flirtation over social media would lead to anything. But the more I learned about Joe, the less interested I was in the guys I was meeting in New York.

In December after hundreds of messages, I decided to take the ultimate plunge and go meet Joe in person. Even though I was afraid to say this out loud, I told him that I felt like I was dating someone I’ve never met and I needed to know if this was real.

Thankfully, our first meeting did not resemble an episode of MTV’s Catfish.

As I nervously got off the plane (internally yelling at my self for flying to INDIANA), the minute I laid eyes on Joe I knew I had made the right choice.

I have to laugh when I think about the fact that I moved to the Midwest, changed careers, and found my soon to be husband all because of a relationship I built on Twitter.

Now I know there are a lot of skeptics out there when it comes to online dating in any form. And I know it is rare that situations like ours turn into happily ever afters.

However for all the single ladies and gentlemen out there still searching for love, I hope our Twitter love story gives you hope that your fairy tale ending could be just a tweet away.

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