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About kacyjayne

I’m a twenty something social media marketing professional navigating life in Indianapolis. After graduating from Arizona State University (go Sun Devils!) I spent two blissfully hectic years working as a reporter in New York City. And while I thought I would be staying put in NYC for a while, a surprise twist of social media fate has led me to embrace life in the Midwest.

The Response to Charlottesville

17th August 2017

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The Robert E. Lee statue in Charlottesville, VA.

I’ve been struggling with whether or not I should say anything at all. This is such a clear issue of right and wrong that I would expect everyone to be condemning what we have been seeing.

But unfortunately, to too many, the necessary response to the events in Charlottesville this past week are unclear.

While this rally may have been labeled as being about simply removing a statue, that was never really the whole story. The truth is, it was an opportunity for white supremacists to mobilize.

Who are white supremacists? While I think we all have an idea of who they are, I took to the dictionary to get an unbiased definition.

“A person who believes that the white race is inherently superior to other races and that white people should have control over people of other races.”

So let’s be clear here. This is the definition of the people our President is having a hard time condemning. A definition that goes against our country’s Declaration of Independence and if Christianity is your thing, how God innately created all people in his image.

How can anyone condone someone who agrees with this definition above? Even worse, how can anyone in authority fear calling them out on it. (I’m looking at you Mr. President.)

So rather than just sit and stew in my own emotions, I am reminded that we need to continue to speak out when events like this occur because otherwise we will continue to live in this same cycle of violence and fear. And I for one am sick of living in a world that accepts this kind of hate.

My place in the fight for equality

24th January 2017

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As my mind continues to race and reflect over the events of the past few days, I have one last thing I would like to say.

As a white woman born into privilege, who grew up in an affluent neighborhood never wanting for anything, with parents who encouraged and supported me to pursue my dreams, I understand why some people may look at me and say, “How do you have anything to complain about?”

And the truth is, I don’t. Everything I have achieved in life is because I was blessed with the circumstances and support that allowed me to be where I am today.

However, just because I may not experience the hardships many other women and marginalized groups deal with does not mean I can idly sit by and not help them in their fight. How utterly selfish would that be of me to discredit the real issues so many people in our country face just because I was lucky enough to be born into the circumstances that I was?

I may sound like a broken record, but until those of us with privilege are willing to lift up those that do not, we are going to continue to fight these same battles instead of making progress and moving this country forward.

Pursuing your passion

27th June 2016

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In conversations with college students along with those still in high school, the same topic always comes up when discussing their future career paths.

It’s the myth that, in order to obtain a certain job, you need a particular degree.

While this still holds true for specialized occupations like accountants and nurses, more than ever employers care more about a potential employee’s intellect and capability to learn and adapt than the degree name on their diploma.

I’ve had countless talks with girls who feel like in order to get a job after college, they need to study something that they may not be truly passionate about.

However as I can say with experience (having parlayed my political science degree into a successfully career in marketing) as long as you are driven and willing to work hard, people will give you a chance to pursue something outside your field of study.

As Ashley Stahl put it in her Forbes article on Six Reasons Why Your College Major Doesn’t Matter, “by and large, your college major is unlikely to have any bearing on your career success.”

Part of the reason I’ve gotten involved with non-profits like Girls Inc. is to help debunk some of the myths young adults fall prey to when making decisions about their future. I want all girls to have a wider scope and understanding of the different jobs that are out there so they don’t have to study something they aren’t truly passionate about just because it has “job security”.

With our rapidly changing economy, they are so many different and exciting career options to pursue. And frankly, sometimes it pays to be the candidate that stands out among the crowd.

So if philosophy really is your thing but everyone keeps telling you you won’t be able to get a job, tell them to talk to me! Don’t give up on what drives you to study harder.

Opportunity

28th March 2016

I was recently in Thailand on my belated honeymoon and, as often happens when I travel, I was struck by how fortunate I am to have had the education and opportunities than many girls across the world do not have access to.

The fact that here in the United States all girls are given the right to an education and the freedom to do so is an opportunity no one should squander.

However, the attitude towards education in our culture does not always reflect this. Many kids view school as boring and a waste of time instead of the huge privilege that it is. And even worse, sometimes they may not have the right type of influence to show them the amazing opportunity learning really is.

Thankfully, this mentality is shifting as more and more people are talking about this issue and finding ways to change the conversation.

Programs like the ones at Girls Inc., which can give girls an extra push or a mentor to look up to, are one way we can re-shape the way school is viewed.

Programs and institutions like these give students more resources and opportunities to understand what they are capable of and how they can take control of their lives through education.

But even if you do not have time to volunteer or partner with an organization like Girls Inc., there are some simple steps you can take to help amplify this message.

Just bringing up this topic as a talking point in your social circles or having a conversation with your kids could make them rethink how they view education and schooling.

What do you think we can do to make help girls reach their fullest potential? What have you done to change the conversation?

This post originally appeared on the Girls Inc. blog.

The Power of Mentors

3rd March 2016

While there is greater emphasis than ever before on giving girls the opportunity to take the lead, we still have a ways to go in order to ensure that when they have the chance to do so, they are equipped for success.

And one of the best ways we can do this, is by giving girls mentors at a young age.

This issue is especially important when it comes to recent findings suggesting women in leadership roles are at a higher risk of becoming depressed than their male peers.

The study, done by the University of Texas at Austin and published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior, found that when women are in positions where they are managing others and have the ability to hire or fire people, they are more likely to suffer from symptoms of depression.

The authors attributed the development of these symptoms to numerous issues, including gender bias when it comes to behavior that is deemed acceptable for men in the workplace versus women.

Tetyana Pudrovska, a sociologist who helped lead the study, said of the findings, “Women in authority positions are viewed as lacking the assertiveness and confidence of strong leaders. But when these women display such characteristics, they are judged negatively for being unfeminine. This contributes to chronic stress.”

Unfortunately, until more systematic change is put into place, it will be a long while before women stop feeling this way in the workplace.

But there is one method that can drastically help women in these situations and it is something that can be done before they even enter the workplace.

It is something that is a core part of what is done at Girls Inc., giving young women mentors to support them from a young age with the process of choosing a career and what to expect in that field.

“A strong mentor can point women to strategies that work to navigate the inevitable stereotyping and resistance,” psychologist Nathilee Caldera told Fast Company in a recent article about the findings.

Do you agree with the findings of this study? How has having a mentor helped shape your career?

This post originally appeared on the Girls Inc. blog.

Is Online Dating Bae?

16th February 2016

It’s that time of year when people either gloat about their significant other, own their singleness or lust for something more. That’s right … it’s Valentine’s Day.

For those of you who fall into the latter category, there is good news. If you aren’t among the 59 percent of Americans who consider online dating a good way to meet people, you may want to rethink your stance.

Online dating has become a haven for those looking to not just date but find a spouse.

In their sixth annual Singles In America survey, match.com found that 93 percent of online daters are more likely to want to marry.

While this statistic may shock some, when you look at how the dating landscape has changed in the last decade, it should come as no surprise.

From the advent of traditional online dating websites like match.com to the emergence of dating apps like Tinder, the rapid growth of these types of platforms demonstrates how much people are yearning to find the one.

But if you’ve heard this same spiel from your grandma every Thanksgiving since you and your ex broke up, and still aren’t convinced online dating is for you, there is more good news.

A 2013 study led by the National Academy of Sciences (PNA) found more than one third of U.S. marriages begin with online dating.

These marriages, in particular, were also less likely to end in divorce or separation, according to the study.

Unlike with most of the studies done on online dating, the PNA’s findings came from looking at individuals who organically found their significant other on social media along with those who found their partner through a more traditional online dating site.

This is an important distinction to make because one of the most surprising ways people are now connecting is through social media. And no, we aren’t talking about the dating social networks.

We’re talking about universally accepted sites like Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

With how much time we spend on social media as a culture, it only makes sense that we would start connecting beyond the screen as well.

But how is it that these connections are happening? Let me give you an example.

Let’s say you and some stranger from Indiana follow the same person on Twitter. And this person decides that you and this stranger should virtually meet so he suggests you follow one another.

And then, five months later, you find yourself traveling to Indianapolis for the first time to meet your Twitter crush.

If this sounds outlandish, that’s because it is. But the best part is, the scenario above is how I met my husband.

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Now, countless tweets, texts, and cross country trips later, I am living a sweet newlywed life with my husband in the Midwest.

My story is not an isolated incident either. Take actor Jake T. Austin for instance. In January, he announced that he was dating one of his fans which he had met through social media.

So, all of you out there who don’t want to give online dating a chance: maybe you just need to rethink what online dating means to you.

You never know when your next mention on Twitter or comment on Instagram could be the person you have been looking for.

This post originally appeared on Fox News Latino.

Our New Home

18th May 2015

For a long time, Joe and I thought this day would never come. And yet, here we are!

This house we decided to build was really the catalyst that prompted us to have the “marriage” discussion.

And now, a little over a year after we met with our builder for the first time, we’ve been married 8 weeks and are officially moved into our first home!

Planning a wedding and building a house at the same time is not something I would recommend doing. Yet, somehow, we managed to do both and still maintain some sort of sanity!

We decided to build in a historic neighborhood in Downtown Indianapolis called Cottage Home. It has a great mix of hundred year old homes and new builds like ours and we could not be happier with the community we are now a part of.

We have only been in the house for a little over 48 hours so there is still much decorating to be done but I figured it was time to share some pictures with all of you who have been asking about it. (Especially you, mom!)

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And for the most part, that’s it! All I can say is, it feels good to be home!

 

Our Wedding

14th April 2015

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After months of fretting over centerpieces and reception decor, our wedding weekend came and went in a flash. And just like that, we have already been married for a month!

Thankfully, all of the nights spent worrying over how it would all play out translated into the most incredibly wonderful day we could have imagined.

Throughout our weekend of #CapobRays activities, from baseball games to the rehearsal dinner to the wedding itself, I was reminded just how much Joe and I are loved by those around us.

It truly took a village to pull off our special day and for that, we will be forever grateful to each and every person who helped us celebrate and plan our union of holy matrimony.

Our wonderful photographers, Chris Maddox and Briana Santiago, were able to capture our day so beautifully and I am so excited to finally share a glimpse at some of the images with you all!

(And yes, we chose to get married on the Pi Day of the Century. Because, like Pi, our love is infinite & irrational.)

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             (All photos taken at Ancala Country Club in Scottsdale, Arizona by Chris Maddox Photography)

Saying Goodbye to Singledom

27th February 2015

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Up until two years ago, when Joe just happened to fall into my life, I had always been the requisite single girl in my group of friends.

It’s not that I didn’t want to date…it was just that I was having so much fun building my career and friendships that it never was a priority.

My entire life, I’ve found so much joy and fulfillment in the female relationships I’ve made that the thought of adding a boy into the mix seemed like it could only screw things up. (Which in the instances of some of my friends’ relationships, did in fact occur.)

Through thick and thin, my girlfriends have always been there for me even when my family couldn’t be. They have counseled me on some of my biggest life decisions and given me the courage to get to where I am today.

These friendships are why it is so hard for me to say goodbye to my singledom.

Not because I am afraid of the commitment of marriage or that I’m afraid I’ve made the wrong choice (Joe is one thing I could not be more sure of), but because of how it is going to forever alter these relationships I’ve cherished for so many years.

I’m not naive. The reason everyone says “marriage changes you” is because how could it not?

I am no longer going to be an individual making decisions solely for myself but instead be someone’s partner and teammate as we collectively make decisions together.

While I wrestle with these changes that are about to occur in my life, there is one thing I know for certain.

No matter how the nature of my friendships change once I say “I do,” I will always try my hardest to be the same friend I was when I was single.

Sure, it may involve some more work on my part. But whether it be my friendships or my marriage, I am going to do everything I can to keep the relationships that matter most to me as vibrant and as meaningful as they’ve always been.

The great thing about a milestone like marriage is it truly makes you stop dead in your tracks and evaluate the decisions that got you to this point.

And I can honestly say that were it not for the love and faithfulness my girlfriends have provided over the years, I would not be able to walk down the aisle.

Because without them teaching me about the type of love I deserve, I never would have been able to recognize it when I found it.

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(This post is in honor of many lovely ladies but in particular my soulmate, Allie. You will always be my person!)

Oscar’s Best Dressed: Pearls, Chartreuse, Statement Earrings, & YSL

23rd February 2015

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While I was a little underwhelmed with both the the red carpet and the show itself (too much talking, too little NPH), the gowns did not disappoint.

And lets be honest, I only watch the Academy Awards for the fashion anyways.

Last night, we all learned that Lupita is the QUEEN of red carpets, Emma isn’t afraid to rock color, Gwyneth likes to stick to what she knows, and Margot is on her way to becoming a style icon.

What were you favorite looks at the 2015 Oscars?